Pillow Princess, a queer woman, or human for that matter, that prefers to receive rather than give during sexual encounters. A term that is often used as an insult. No one wants to be a pillow princess, no one will admit they are a pillow princess, being a pillow princess means being selfish, spoilt and…
8 Common Misconceptions about Femmes that we would like you to drop in 2018
Femmephobia is nothing new to me: From when I came out, where I was not allowed to enter LGBT venues because I did not look gay enough to recent dating experiences where sexualised objectification is common practise, femmephobia was and is omnipresent. However, it took a recent online discussion for me to realise how deep…
Confessions of a damaged heart: Why I stopped hooking up
Confessions of a damaged heart is me sharing some of my written up lines over time; From love, over heart-break to healing. A, hopefully, honest look inside a queer femme’s heart and her journey in life. In these writings, I never intend to shame anyone else’s truth of life, it is simply me sharing my…
The Defiant Femmes of London: Athena
Meet Athena, a sparkling feminist unicorn, with a magical mane made for maiming misogyny and fragile masculinity. Ever wondered how it is to be a multitalented Business Femme? I like pretty things. For such a long time I felt mocked and denigrated because I liked the pretty things, I like the shiny things, I like the…
The Defiant Femmes of London: Meet the fantastic Rhe B.
Lovely defiants, meet the fantastic organisational mastermind, not-so-secret-art geek, mental heath advocate and soon-to-be-phd-candidate Rhe! Even though I have the privilege to know her personally, I was blown away by the chance to finally chat with her about Femme identities. From Punk to Femme or maybe the Punk within the Femme. When I was younger…
The Defiant Femmes of London: Sarah M.
I am so very delighted to introduce to you as the very first of the new Defiant Femmes project, my wonderful colleague Sarah Moore. Sarah, self-identified Hard Femme and Queer Queen, is one of our amazing Comms people at Stonewall and also a fellow LGBTQ+ activist and intersectional feminist. I think I started identifying with…
Yesterday, today and tomorrow…..
Let’s pretend you wake up and you can’t grasp the absurdity you are confronted with. The moment when you feel, yet again, that you are caught in a Kafka-novel and you have this bizarre feeling, where your brain is clearly too overwhelmed to formulate a coherent emotional response. There is a hint of resignation, a…
Oakland Pride: Dance Your Soul Out
Confession time: I missed Oakland Pride parade. After an amazing week in NYC with the mind-blowing DapperQ fashion show, I craved to have a little drink with my friends in Oakland, and out of the one drink, turned two, and three and slowly we had our own little pub crawl going – which was amazing…
A Femme in New York – Insert stereotypical NYC specific lyric here
New York, what have you done to me? You took my little heart and swirled it all around. Damn, I had a freaking fabulous time – the kind of time where you want to curse to emphasise how fucking brilliant it was. So NYC and I have a bit of an odd relationship. First time…
The Unfavourable Reality about the Trump Tapes
As a heads up: this article deals with various and explicit levels of sexual assault and might be triggering for some people. I also want to say that in the following I am speaking of women, and I mean all self-identified women, but of course it also effects trans men and non-binary people, as well…